Sunday, May 9, 2021

As I Have Loved You

May 9, 2021
St. John’s United Church of Christ, Union, Illinois

John 15:9-17[1]

This section of John’s gospel is known as the Farewell Discourses. Jesus was preparing the disciples to carry on without him. They had eaten what would be their last supper. Jesus had washed their feet, setting for them the example of servanthood. Betrayal and denial had been foretold. And he had given them a new commandment: love one another. It was a deeply contemplative moment.

The lands of Israel and Judea are a crossroads, a hub for the mixing of cultures. The Jewish people had been conquered again and again, by the Babylonians, Persians, Greeks, and now the Romans. New ideas and philosophies had been introduced from these and other cultures, and likely influenced the thinking of many teachers. It is entirely possible that a metaphysical conversation among the disciples of Jesus would have included the ideas of Aristotle, philosopher of ancient Greece.

Aristotle’s writings had covered many subjects, from physics and psychology to music and theatre. His discussion of ethics and virtues synthesized the various philosophies existing prior to him. Aristotle took the virtues—such as justice, courage, temperance, and so on—to be central to a well-lived life. He regarded the ethical virtues as the skills for human well-being.

On that evening together with Jesus, the disciples would have been connecting all that they had learned and experienced, forming the ethic of love which would be the core of the new Christian faith. As one commentary explains, love became for them a theological virtue, “an excellence of character that God has by nature and in which we participate by grace. Such love is primarily interested in the good of the other person, rather than one’s own.”[2] In response to the question of how humans should best live, Jesus distills the virtues into the principle of divine love.

Love can be an ambiguous term, particularly since it is a single English word used as the translation of several Greek words, each of which has shades of meaning. In this passage, the word used is agapē, the unselfish love of God. Agape love is kind and generous. It only desires good things for the other.

The commandment of Jesus is that the disciples’ relationships to one another should be like their relationship to Jesus, which in turn finds its ultimate expression in the relationship of Jesus and God. Their love for one another should be like the wondrous love they have known from God through Jesus.

This kind of love, agape love is truly concerned about the well-being of others. It is not possessive or dominating, allowing space for the other to be, just as they are. And, it is unending, not limited by time and space, but abundant and always ready to be given.

We might think of this agape love as the love of a lifetime. Like other virtues, love takes time and discipline to develop, to become a habit of care and concern. Jesus describes this love as being so deeply woven into our lives that we might lay down our lives for it.

As Aristotle described the method of gaining the virtues, he suggested the best way to integrate a particular virtue is to emulate those who already embody it. If you want to be of great courage, learn to live like one who demonstrates courage. Follow them, watch what they do, how they interact with the world. And the process of learning will be most successful when we become friends with those whose lives we seek to emulate.

I am like my friends. You are too. We adopt certain characteristics—both good and bad—from our friends. We are known by the company we keep. I learned this informally, intuitively, as my friendships developed over the years. I remember forming certain friendships because I wanted to become like that other person. And I have let friendships die because they became destructive of who I wanted to be.

Aristotle described three kinds of friendship. There are friendships that are useful; they allow us to make business connections or get into a particular social group. Other friendships are pleasurable; we enjoy hanging out with one another. The third kind of friendship—the best kind—is for the sake of friendship itself. This kind of friendship is formative: we become like one another. In this way, a true friend who loves as God loves will, in time, teach us how to love as God loves.

The disciples were following Jesus, learning from Jesus, because they wanted to become like Jesus. They wanted to live lives of great love, self-sacrificing love, agape love. They had been servants, followers, students. Now, as Jesus prepared them for his departure, he brought them to another level. No longer servants, but friends. No longer subordinates, but equal partners. Jesus chose them, and brought them into his being, to abide in love.

When Jesus said, “You are my friends,” he was describing the formative kind of friendship that Aristotle called the best kind. They had learned to love Jesus as the best kind of friend. They had learned to love one another as Jesus had loved them. They had become more than companions or fellow students. They had become true friends, learning from one another how to embody agape love.

We are called into this kind of relationship with one another. We are invited into a friendship with Jesus and those who embody the love of Jesus. And more than that: through our relationship with Christ, we enter into the agape love of God. We may not be able to imagine being friends with God. It is perhaps incomprehensible to think of becoming like God in the way that we love. But in the person of Jesus, we can begin to understand this friendship. In the course of a lifetime, we can take on God’s characteristics as our own—and love one another as God loves us. My friends in Christ, love one another as Jesus loves you.  Amen.



[1] The scripture quotations contained herein are from the New Revised Standard Version Bible, copyright © 1989 by the Division of Christian Education of the National Council of the Churches of Christ in the U.S.A.  Used by permission.  All rights reserved.

[2] David S Cunningham, Theological Perspective on John 15:9-17 in Feasting on the Word: Preaching the Revised Common Lectionary, Year B, Vol. 2, David L. Bartlett and Barbara Brown Taylor, General Editors (Louisville: Westminster John Knox Press, 2008), p. 498.

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